If your lease requires the landlord’s written permission to sublet, get the landlord’s written permission and have at it.
The bridge you don’t want to burn is a bridge to nowhere. You were never going to get a good reference from your landlord, Captain Ahab, anyway.
If you are the only signatory to the lease, one could argue that you should be the one signing the rent checks. If both you and your wife are named on the lease then your landlord is just being an idiot.
Because you live in a single-family dwelling, you are only protected by the “just cause” provisions of the Rent Ordinance, not the price controls. The landlord can increase the rent as much he wants to.
It’s not enough that we in the tenant defense business have to deal with unscrupulous and/or uninformed landlords, we have to deal with tenants who decide they own their units and rent them out like landlords.
Your landlord may not be required to give you permission to let your boyfriend move in.
It’s never a good idea to try to backpedal to get a landlord’s consent to the addition of a roommate after the roommate has moved in. Follow the rules before you add a roommate.
The days of simply replacing your roommate without the landlord’s involvement are long gone. Many tenants don’t realize this.
I think the best strategy is to remove the items from the garage. Then consider filing a petition for decrease in services at the Rent Board.