I reread Rules & Regulations §6.14, which as usual, has the effect of a combination of Seconal and Wild Turkey. Your boyfriend is not an original tenant/occupant, but the landlord still cannot increase the rent.
San Francisco is expensive and many landlords these days want to cash in on the new Twitter/tech boom. One of the easiest ways to remove rent-controlled tenants is to sue them for illegal subletting.
The landlord’s rationale to steal your pot rack has been employed by the rich and powerful and two-year-olds for eons–I want it, so now it’s mine and here’s a rule I just made up to justify my keeping it.
If your lease requires the landlord’s written permission to sublet, get the landlord’s written permission and have at it.
The bridge you don’t want to burn is a bridge to nowhere. You were never going to get a good reference from your landlord, Captain Ahab, anyway.
Civil Code § 1950.5, the statute dealing with the collection and refund of security deposits, does not allow deductions for utility bills.
If you are the only signatory to the lease, one could argue that you should be the one signing the rent checks. If both you and your wife are named on the lease then your landlord is just being an idiot.
There is no penalty for late payment of security deposit interest in San Francisco.
Landlords steal security deposits because they can. They bank on the fact that many tenants will simply walk away.